Our Menage a Monday series in which we will highlight a favorite fellow blogger continues! This week, my blog will be hosting one of the sweetest people on Twitter, LZ (@MyMessyParadise on Twitter) who’s blog My Messy Paradise is one that I enjoy reading every day. She is a busy mom of two little girls who always has something to say.
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Enjoy her post!
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Why am I always the Bad Cop?
I am definitely the meanie disciplinarian in our house, and J is the cool parent. Sure, sometimes I’m cool, and sometimes I’m fun, but he never, ok, rarely, disciplines the girls or tells them when they are doing something wrong. In fact, he often encourages behavior, albeit fun stuff, that I eventually have to put a stop to or forbid. He riles them up at bedtime and then makes the Debbie Downer ‘Wa-waaaa’ sound when I suggest they need to calm down. He tells M how good a jumper she is when she flies off the couch. Guess who has to step in and tell her that, while she is an amazing jumper, it is not safe or acceptable to do so? “Wa-waaaaa,” says my 4 y/o. That’s nice. Guess who taught her that?
This weekend, J hit a new low in making me look like the bad guy. He was singing a song and was trying to teach M the words. He’d sing, then she’d copy. Really cute. Before he realized it, ‘Damn’ slipped out of his mouth. Part of the song, yes, but not necessarily something we want her repeating. You know how he blamed me corrected this? “M, I don’t think Mommy likes you saying that word.” Excuse me, do YOU like her saying that word? Say it with me, ‘We’ – “We don’t really like that word.” It’s only one small syllable. I know I’ve heard him say it before. “We think you should step away from that large snake.” “We would like you to stop painting your sister.” It’s not difficult. It puts some of the blame on me, and even when it it is completely undeserved, I’m ok with it.
There was also the mountain of pillows that she wanted to try to balance on – on the couch – that I had to outlaw. How about the “Fart, fart, poop, poop” song that J thinks is hilarious to teach a child while I am trying to teach her about proper behavior? Last night, she showed me that she could jump from one bed to another. “Daddy taught me!” Of course he did. It’s a great trick. It looks like fun. Did Daddy see that you almost missed the bed and jumped head first into the dresser? Doubt it.
Pretty much the story of my life. I’m the Fun-sponge. I suck the joy out of everything. “Mommy says no.” “Mommy doesn’t like you doing that.” “Mommy said matches and knives are dangerous.” Mommy sounds like a big old wet blanket. Waa-Waaaaaa.
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Please make sure to check out the other bloggers in the Menage A Monday series:
Lizz @hereslizz – One Nerve Left
Melissa @rockdrool – Rock and Drool – (Melissa is featuring me this week. Check one of my first posts HERE)
Lynette @MyMessyParadise - My Messy Paradise
Deb @NoReturnMom – Spawnocalypse
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What a good idea! To pay someone else a compliment by featuring their blog! I love it! I feel her pain – I too am ALWAYS the debbie downer, it never fails. I hope you have a wonderful Monday (HA – that’s an oxymoron)!
lol ~ J sounded like my dad! …
Happy SITS Sunday! Have a great week!
great idea!
my hubs always manages to make me the bad guy when our girls ask to go somewhere he will say”well if your mom says yes,than you can” ,WTH!! and if I say no than that makes me the bad guy!
Men!
stopping by from SITS
Stopping by from SITS! I don’t have any kids yet…hopy my hubby doesn’t do that to me-if he does, we will hav some words!
Been there, done that. The cure for that problem is to leave him the kids for a 3 day weekend. Let him deal with discipline and see the other side of the coin. He will have much more respect for the mom after this.
Anne-Marie
http://Anne-Mariewithadash.blogspot.com
Stopping by from SITS! We are the opposite. I am the fun one. I am the cop too. Just have less rules than my husband.
I will be heading to check on your FB today. …and I totally understand the whole daddy no discipline thing. My hubbs is the same way. Oh well, someones got to do the job!! Stopping by from SITS.
Is there a mom who isn’t a fun sponge???? I haven’t met one yet!
hah this sounds like our house more often than not. it sucks. i feel your pain.
my husband and i take turns being the good cop. it just worked out that way.
It is the same at my house, especially at bed time! My hubby will play with our two year old and get her all excited, and then turn to me and tell me its time for her to go to bed.
Visiting from SITS.
Is it ALWAYS the moms who are the bad guys? This is exactly the situation in my house. In FACT, it doesn’t even matter anymore if my hubby is trying to do some discipline, my older daughter still thinks daddy is wonderful and mommy is a meanie.
I’m going to make sure my younger daughter doesn’t follow in her footsteps. I need ONE kid to love me more
I am so jealous of any Mom who can be seen as fun. I don’t think my kids will ever see me that way! I don’t bark orders at them or constantly rain on their parades as much as I rain on Joe’s…All they see is Mom taking away Dad’s fun!
Yeah, I lost the couch-jumping battle a looooong time ago. All I can do now is try to emphasize that we only do it on our poor, defenseless couch. Since my husband usually joins right in with the “thwomping,” at least there’s minimal risk of injury, with a 35-year-old holding their hands and all.
I can’t begin to explain how angry this makes me – he’s not a child or their friend, he’s their parent and more importantly, her partner in parenting. If he was oblivious and let them do things they shouldn’t it wouldn’t be as bad, but the fact that he basically eggs them on and disrespects her? Ugh. I wouldn’t take that from him. Luckily my hubby and I are both on the same page. It’s a team effort.
It’s usually the other way around at our house but that’s only because my hubby doesn’t know how to relax! *eyeroll* “Don’t let him help with the dishes, he might splash water on the floor!” or “Don’t let her take that toy out of the room!” Sheesh, live a little!
I really enjoyed reading her post! I’ll have to go check out her blog!
Happy Monday! Visiting from SITS!
That was a entertaining post. I must check her out. Thanks for sharing.
Happy SITS day! What a fun blog you have
I just added you on twitter, and facebook.
I love your blog. I can totally relate to your featured blogger!
Happy happy SITS day….enjoy all the bloggy love.
xo bj
Congrats on SITS day. Yay! (-: Your blog is really cute. I like your replacing the flab with the fab button. Great idea. (-:
~Kathryn
Happy SITS day! My hubby loves to get onto me as I’m getting onto the kiddos….drives me insane! Oh, mean mom’s everywhere should unite.
Love your blog!!!
LOve your blog. Congrats on being selected to be feature blogger. SO glad I found you going to follow you know because you make me laugh! Hopefully I can be featured blogger someday! Have a good one
XOXO
When I was a kid I was fourth in the bath. Same water. It was because of financial hardship though. Don’t break up with me – we just met….
Happy SITS day girl! Or since you are Canadian, should I say Happy SITS day, eh? (giggle) I lived in Canada for a couple years in high school. Best years of my life and the people are the nicest people in the world! How do y’all do that??
Blessings,
LMM
Happy SITS Day !! enjoy all your lovely comments
hi…happy sits day!!! enjoy your special day and stay warm!
Congrats on your SITS day!
Hi: Thouhgt I would drop on by and am so glad I did. Your blog is wonderful. I can relate to the mean “mom” syndrome, mom’s always seem to be the ones to have to say no. Will be back soon. Thanks for sharing. Cheers, Lia
Happy SITS day! I am also a SAHM and blogger. Not Canadian but I do have French in my family and I am on the quest to lose weight as well.
I enjoyed reading your post. Too bad J makes you feel like the “bad cop”, but I’ll bet he can’t cook or bake your daughter’s favorite treats as well as you do
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Hope your SITS Day was a great one!
Happy SITSta Day! From one bad cop to another hang in there it only gets worse. Mine are 9 & 7. Last night the 9 year old Diva and I had a blow out and she might have told Mr she hates me. I’m sure I’ve won worst Mom of the year for having her diva hate her at the young age of 9. Anywho, this morning she met me at breakfast with a smile and was as happy as could be. All I know is I am sure I;ll be paying large sums for therapy for her (or me) very soon. sigh. See it could be worse.
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