My blog got a troll visit yesterday. It was actually quite odd because she left a comment on a post I published last October, as an entry to a contest that was held by Jill of Scary Mommy. But it wasn’t the post that was the issue – it was the use of the word MOMMY that she seems to have a problem with.
Here is her comment, unedited:
“Why is it that you call yourselves “mommies”? It’s infantile, like being called a girl instead of a woman. If giving birth (or adopting) and raising a child is so important, why don’t you insist on the dignity of the word “parent”? Or “mother” — if you insist on focusing on gender as well? I am a parent and I was “mommie” only to my children and then only when they were young. No wonder men and childfree women don’t take you seriously: You are endlessly self-absorbed, boring, juvenile, and have nothing to say for yourselves beyond your reproductive status and childrearing.
Sad, right? Ignorant – YUP. Not sure which bothers me more, the fact that she’s a total dumbass, or the fact that she thinks MOMMY is spelled MOMMIE.
This troll is really clueless. There is no dignity in the word Mommy and I should insist on being called/calling myself Parent or Mother? “IF giving birth and raising a child is so important…”?
Since when is there no dignity in being called a Mommy? I AM PROUD to call myself a Mommy, and am proud to associate myself with anyone who does so.
- I am proud that I was pregnant (twice dammit) and did everything I could to ensure my children were brought safely into this world.
- I am proud I survived labouring for 23 hours and close to 30 stitches to repair my lady bits.
- I am proud that I survived major abdominal surgery to welcome baby #2 into my life (that sponge bath that followed was pure awesome too).
- I am proud that I’ve spent the last six years of my life working to raise strong, thoughtful, kind, honest, grateful (and funny) human beings.
- I am proud that I find no greater joy than being with my children (sorry husband).
- I am proud that I love being a mommy and no one can say anything to me, to change that. Ever.
It’s my joy and privilege to be a part of their lives (and I’m sure they feel the same way because I am the SHIZ). Is that what you call self-absorbed? Well, then I’m okay with that.
What do you think? Personally, I’m kind of over the mom-on-mom attacks at this point.
Come on Mommies, I know there are MANY of you out there in the blogosphere, and on Twitter that will want to stand up and say that you too are PROUD to call yourself a Mommy. If you’re compelled to respond, then I would love to read it. If you feel compelled to write a post, then please add the link below so that I (and others) can find each other’s posts.